How to Reduce Stress and Anxiety When Planning Your Wedding

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Wedding events are magical moments. It’s a day you’ve probably looked forward to since you were quite younger. You could imagine the beautiful lights from above, the fairytale wedding dress, luxurious bouquet, tables filled with mouth-watering foods and drinks, or even a beach around you. 

With so many things to do to make the event perfect, your wedding planning can subject you to stress and anxiety. But your wedding is the last thing that should seem like a heavy burden. No negative energy, right? 

So there’s every reason to find ways to reduce stress and anxiety while planning your big day. 

Tell-tale signs that you’re experiencing wedding-related stress 

It’s easy to get caught up in your plans that you wouldn’t even realize that your mental health is already at stake. Of course, it’s normal to feel a little nervous before your wedding, but it becomes a problem when you’re having more negative emotions than positive ones. 

So, here are some signs that you’re probably dealing with wedding-related stress and anxiety.

  • Feeling constantly tired
  • Feeling there’s a heavy burden on your shoulders that you just wish could disappear. 
  • Worrying about every little item on your wedding plan, unsure of how you’ll have them ready before time.
  • Feeling disorganized and at a loss about what plan to attend to first or how to execute it. 
  • Continuously postponing important plans because you feel overwhelmed each day. 

Steps to manage stress and anxiety as you plan 

Luckily, here are some effective strategies to help you get back in control:

  1. Have a clear to-do list

One of the best ways to minimize stress and panic when planning your wedding is to create a clear to-do list.

Without such a step-by-step game plan, a little task might seem like an overwhelming burden. 

With a clear to-do list, you know what task to handle at every given time. This gives you a sense of control. 

Additionally, arrange the tasks such that you can practically follow through step by step. Seeing the tasks in writing gives you more clarity than when trying to figure it all out in your head. 


2. Start as early as possible

If you’re a natural procrastinator, one of the best advice you can leverage prior to your wedding is to start planning very early. 

Looking to have a destination wedding? Start searching for a suitable location and find out the cost so it doesn’t cause you to panic when you find out only a few days to the day. There are many wedding resources and guides online to help you determine things like cost, location, rules, and to-dos regarding wedding planning. 

Seeing that you’ve accomplished so much already, the final week leading to your wedding should be of rest and excitement towards the big day. 

3. Seek help 

Let’s not even mince words: you can’t and shouldn’t handle it alone! 

Agreed, you are a couple. But that’s hardly ever enough. And that’s why you have friends and family. They’ll likely be very ready to share in your excitement and burden. Better still, you can hire a professional wedding planner if you can afford it. 

Delegating some tasks will effectively help you reduce wedding-related stress as you have fewer things to worry about. There’s peace of mind that comes with knowing all ends are covered.

You can also assign tasks with your partner. While you handle the lighting, flowers, and decor, you may ask them to care for the catering, drinks, and photography. Team power! 

4. Don’t try to impress or compare

Comparing your wedding with others on social media is one of the biggest causes of stress and anxiety when planning. You’ll immediately feel pressured to go over and beyond to match what you’ve seen. And when you don’t have the resources for it, it becomes a huge problem. 

It would help to acknowledge that your wedding is unique to you and your partner and should be defined according to your style, vision, and budget. 

If you’ve made all your wedding decisions based on social media posts or Pinterest and you feel stretched to your limits, it’s wise to stop now. Friends will also make suggestions, but if they’re beyond your capacity, say something clever like, “Thanks, we’ll think about it.”

5. Never lose sight of what truly matters

You’re deeply anxious about a particular detail, maybe what earring or lighting to use. Take a step back and think about it, would this thing matter in 2-3 years? If not, why sweat about it? 

There are so many wedding-related details you’ll find yourself anxious about. And while it’s hard to ignore them, asking yourself if it really matters will help you shift perspectives. 


Never neglect self-care. You want to look beautiful, exuberant, and happy on your wedding day. So ensure you get enough sleep, feed well, and go for a walk when you feel stressed. 

Getting enough sleep can help improve your mood and keep you rejuvenated each day, putting a check on that persistent feeling of tiredness.